One Bad Apple.....

Hello brighteyes.....:)...yup, that's the lot of you.....lol

I've been thinking about something now ( on and off ) for about almost a decade. Trying to get it resolved to an amicable resolution.( an attempted relationship ) However, that has gone along for not, until very recently and I ended up 'terminating' it Let me explain, ...well sorta...lol....

I often use many an analogy, cliche and whatever else seems fitting to express and explain myself for whatever the situtation is at hand. This is one of those times...lol . :) I find that most people seem to relate to them much easier than just trying to express a reason onto yourself or a concept with a mind that doesn't travel in most of the same circles of those that one is in contact with most often. So the cliches and the like seem to usually paint a picture that a thousand words just won't convey. For most people it works and for a very small selected few, it's totally twisted around and ignored making you the 'idiot' or them trying for you to be one !
Well, an 'idiot' I maybe for 'wanting' what someone is trying to 'hide' so desperately using all kinds of 'excuses' and 'made up' reasons why certain very basic facts can't be 'shared' eliminating the 'phantom fantasy relationships' that are fairly prevalent 'online'. Yes, anonymity to some extent is 'expected' and often employed in the 'good sense ' of the 'online internet world'. That's all well and good ! However, when someone 'jerks' another along remaining 'cloaked in a veil of ambiguity' for over an extended period of time,(in my case, 9 yrs.) never having anything 'told' being able to be 'validated' if one attempts to corroberate what is being told as 'truths' which can be easily checked via 'public record' and can't. Something is 'wrong'...big time ! A simple thing such as a birthday, or any event that is 'recorded' as 'public record' should be able to 'match' the information given as 'truths'. When it can't be so and every hair on the back of your neck stands at attention, listen up! RUN ! Do not walk, do not pass go and do not collect $200.00 !!

What irritates me more is not so much the 'red herrings'. Some can even be 'humorous' at times, but when you confront that individual exposing the 'scheme', they're the ones that get bent all out of shape. Heck, c'mon, it's I that have been 'led around like a fool' with you convincing me or trying to convince that you are as you say or being whom you say you are ! Let's not all be ridiculous now...hmmmm. Reality has to 'strike' home at some point !

So when the 'time' comes to end the charade and it 'bites' you in the ole kiesta....you had it coming! No 'apple pie' here and it does prove that 'One bad apple can spoil the whole barrel' !

I'm all in favor of having 'rules' of the internet change or impliment some requirements before one can jump into some IM chat totally falsifying and misrepresenting as to whom or what they are. Maybe like one's 'real name' must be visible at all times instead of the 'phoney SN' that so many use to hide behind. Just think, it might even eliminate 'the predator' mentality that stalk so many innocent children and victims that 'want to be' open and honest without any 'malicious intent'. I can't quite say that for those that enjoy making it 'mandatory' for them to continue on any kind of relationship 'stealthed'...

I have created so many webpages on my site regarding this very subject matter and apparently I too haven't learned very well either. I once publicly 'broadcasted' this very same 'individual' which has prompted me to 'blog' on this subject again. It's the ill practices of which will eventually demise a relationship because 'sooner or later' one is unwilling to continue or 'want' for such practices . A 'bad apple' is a 'bad apple' despite one's wishes for something more !

So America, lesson learned. Listen up, take heed and if your neck hairs rise, don't accept!
Of course I have abbreviated this 'lesson' because there is no sense in beating a dead horse, but I thought it would be just a good reminder....vultures still reside 'out there' !

Till next time,
Smile and be smiled upon, someone is watching !
Smugs,
Steve